Sometimes we are swans…and that’s ok.

ℐ 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝒶 𝓈𝓌𝒶𝓃 𝒹𝓊𝓇𝒾𝓃ℊ 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓈 𝓈𝓅ℯ𝒶𝓀𝒾𝓃ℊ ℯ𝓃ℊ𝒶ℊℯ𝓂ℯ𝓃𝓉 😅

As the organiser introduced me, she said that sometimes we ladies can be like swans. Calm on the outside but frantically peddling under the water 🦢

That’s exactly how I was feeling before this session😅

It had been a very hectic week for me at work. Plus my daughter was leaving for university in the UK the next day at 7am.

But when I walked into her room, she had an explosion of clothes around her as she sat scrolling on her phone. And her luggage was still empty!🤯

Breathe…I told myself…

Reassuring me that she didn’t need any help, I left and made my way to the speaking venue - trying to bring my mind on my speech.

And then I remembered my speaking coach’s advice: don’t read your speech on the day of your speaking engagement. It tells your brain that you don’t know it!

So I put my speech away, took deep breaths and just focused on connecting with the ladies who showed up at 6:30pm on a Thursday to be part of this event.

I’m so glad I did cause I made lovely connections and felt so much at ease during my speech🎤

I’ve written a book on Rest Reset and Reframe. But I still struggle with it😓

The only difference is that in the moment of awareness, I know what I need to calm down, focus on what’s within my control to take the step forward.

My final message to the ladies was: we will often be triggered. 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓴𝓮𝔂 𝓲𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓪𝔀𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝔀𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓲𝓽 𝓱𝓪𝓹𝓹𝓮𝓷𝓼 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓶𝓪𝓷𝓪𝓰𝓮 𝓲𝓽 𝓼𝓸 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝔂𝓸𝓾 𝓻𝓮𝓼𝓹𝓸𝓷𝓭 𝓲𝓷 𝓪 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓭𝓾𝓬𝓽𝓲𝓿𝓮 𝓶𝓪𝓷𝓷𝓮𝓻.

Find your own practices and rhythm to do this - I mention a few ways in my book.

Do you sometimes feel like a swan?

How do you calm down when you are triggered?